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We often times read about the failures of the education system in America.  This story is the EXACT opposite of anything that you have read that says the system can not work.  Chicago’s Urban Prep Academy is not only graduating 100% of this year’s senior class, they are also sending them all off to college in the fall.

Opened in 2006, Urban Prep is the only all-black, all-male charter school in Chicago and has been sending each of it’s graduates to college for the past three years.

As we all know, the statistics for black men in the school systems of Urban areas often reflect high numbers of drop outs and below average performances.  Tim King and other community leaders in the area created Urban Prep Academy as a way to impact young black men in the public education system.  The school aims to instill self esteem among students with their motto “We Believe”.

Students from Urban Prep don’t just go to college. They go to college and ACHIEVE!!!.  Eighty-three percent of students who graduate from the school continue in college after their freshmen year.

More institutions like Urban Prep Academy are needed across the country.  Their dedicated staff is preparing tomorrow’s leaders for a lifetime of success.  I commend them Mr. King and his staff for stepping up to the plate and creating a way for the young men of Chicago to succeed and navigate their way through life.



Cori B. is the daughter of rapper Snoop Dogg and she is following in her daddy’s footsteps.  Cori is also an artist making strides within the music industry.   In her latest video she tells us why she is such a “Daddy’s Girl”

In the video Snoop is a proud poppa who is out on the road while his little girl decides to throw a birthday party with some of her friends.  The Doggfather comes home early and surprises his little lady but he doesn’t even trip when he realizes she is having a party. It becomes a family affair as Snoop joins in on the fun.


NBA star Dwyane Wade plans on telling his story of fatherhood via a new book. Wade has joined William Morrow of HarperCollins Publishers to release his first book entitled <em>“A Father First: How My Life Became Bigger than Basketball”</em>. The book will focus on Wade’s childhood in Chicago, but also talk about the challenges that he has faced as a divorced father of two sons.

You may remember that Wade had a very nasty custody battle with his ex wife last year, and was awarded custody of the couple’s two sons. Throughout all of the tribulations that he has face, Wade has remained a positive influence in the lives of his children. He told the Associated Press <em>“I don’t have to share it with people, But I felt there was a need. So many people came up to me in this process, so many fathers, so many men came up to me to congratulate me and to ask me how, how I did it and why I believed I could do it.”</em>

Wade has been honored by the National Fatherhood Initiative for his hard work and dedication in fatherhood, and he also hosted a round table discussion in Orlando earlier this year as a part of President Obama’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative.

As a writer, Dwyane wants to use this book as an opportunity to give people more insight on him as a father.  “I think the biggest thing when I set out to write a book was just to share my experiences, from when I was a kid, my upbringing, my struggles, my joyous times, to becoming a father,” Wade said. “I’m trying to compare them, how they’ve been the same in a sense, even though my worlds are totally different. But we’re still dealing with the same things. From rags to riches, it really doesn’t matter.”


Members of the New York state legislature paid homage to Trayvon Martin on Monday’s Senate legislative session in Albany.  The show of solidarity was headed by Senator Eric Adams who posted the pictures on his Facebook page.


A video has surfaced of then Harvard college student Barack Obama giving a speech at the university during a protest supporting diversity. Buzz Feed posted the interview where Obama is introducing professor Derrick Bell who was responsible for holding the school accountable for creating more diversity on campus.

It was perhaps Barack Obama’s most intense immersion in the charged campus racial politics of the late 1980s and early 1990s: As President of the Harvard Law Review in the spring of his final year there, 1991, he aligned himself with Professor Derrick Bell’s dramatic protest for diversity on the faculty of Harvard Law School.

Bell was the first black tenured professor at the school, and a pioneer of “critical race theory,” which insisted, controversially, on reading issues of race and power into legal scholarship. His protest that spring was occasioned by Harvard’s denial of tenure to a black woman professor, Regina Austin, at a time when only three of the law school’s professors were black and only five women. He told Harvard he would take a leave of absence — a kind of academic strike — “until a woman of color is offered and accepted a tenured position on this faculty,” and he launched a hunger strike to dramatize his point.

Obama was a major figure on campus, the first black president of the Law Review. Some friends, in a prescient joke, just referred to him as “the first black president.” He had a reputation as a conciliatory figure, not a confrontational one like Bell.

Even though the video is over 20 years old, the President still had the same swag back then that he has now


Miami Heat point guard Dwyane Wade hosted the Fatherhood Heroes round table discussion during the NBA’s All Star Weekend festivities in Orlando, Florida recently.

The event was part of President Obama’s Fatherhood and Mentoring Initiative. D. Wade was joined by White House official Joshua Dubois and more. The goal of the discussion was to raise awareness about the importance of being involved in the lives of children.

Wade was asked to join Obama’s fatherhood task force in 2011, shortly after he gained sole custody of his two sons following a long custody battle with his now ex-wife Siohvaughn Wade.

In a blog for Huffington Post in June 2010, he wrote, “I’ve never been at a loss for nicknames. There’s D-Wade and Flash. I love them both, but to be honest, no label sounds as good to me as Daddy.”



Working in radio for the last 11 years has given me the opportunity to come in contact with a lot of different people and personalities. One of my current co-workers at Radio One in Raleigh is Brian Dawson. Brian is the afternoon jock for Raleigh’s K97.5. He has been in the market for over 10 years. One of the things that Brian brings to the table as an on air personality is his relationship with his children. He is a husband and the father of two boy.

Outside of radio, Brian is also the host of a successful TV show that airs locally entitled “The B. Spot”. On a recent episode of the television show Brian documented his relationship with his oldest son Chase. The two bonded over an NFL football game, spent some time at the radio station making a commercial, and spent time together as Chase ran track, played football and other extracurricular activities.

All in all the video is a great example of the relationship between a father and a son. Brian is with his son building a foundation for his future and guiding him through these ever so important early years of his life.

Watch the video below.


A bill has been proposed by Sen. Glenn Grothman to consider single parenting as child abuse.  Sen. Grothman is a republican from Wisconsin who has created a bill to have the state’s Health department consider children from single parent homes as victims of child abuse.

If passed into law the bill would create a campaign that would “emphasize nonmarital parenthood as a contributing factor to child abuse and neglect

That’s right folks, you got it. According to this man if you are a single parent you are committing a crime and automatically neglecting your child.  Never mind that there are single mothers and fathers out here busting their asses to be sure that their children’s needs get met.  Forget about the fact that according to the U.S. Census Bureau there are approximately 13.6 million single parents in the United States today, and those parents are responsible for raising 21.2 million children.   I also guess it doesn’t matter that the number of homes with single fathers has grown by 60% in the last 10 years.

I don’t know who this senator is or what his motivation is for trying to push such non sense onto his constituents but this bill alone proves that he is not in touch with reality and not fit to serve.  The preservation of the family structure is something that I think is very important, but that in no way negates the fact that single parents are just as capable of raising children whether they are married or not. And it is unfathomable to think that someone in 2012 would insinuate that being a single parent should be considered as a criminal act.   Instead of trying to incarcerate and intimidate single parents, why not take a moment to honor those parents who raising children on their own without the help of a partner?

As a single parent myself I take offense to the idea of this entire bill and think that something has to be done to get people who think like this out of public office.  Take a moment to think about this the next time you have a local or state election in  your area.



I’m totally in favor of encouraging your kids to pursue their dreams. I think it’s imperative that we start helping our children focus on chasing their dreams at an early age. This way they know the importance of going after the things that they want in life.

5-year-old Zay Zay went to his father and let him know that he wanted to be a comedian when he grows up. In an attempt to help Zay Zay fulfill his dreams, his dad who is also a comedian wrote some material for his son and filmed him for this youtube clip. His father appears in the video , and even set up a facebook and twitter account for the youngin’.

The routine is entitled “Growing Up Black” and features Zay Zay talking about the things that he has experienced as a child growing up.

What do you think about Zay Zay’s attempt at stand up comedy?

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