My name is Marceau Winston I, I am 30 years old and I am live in Raleigh, North Carolina. I am an Entrepreneur with a successful Marketing/Event Coordinator/Management company named Marceau Winston Presents. I am a proud HBCU alum of North Carolina Central University. Two quotes that I live by and that I will teach my son are: “Hustle for my Last Name not my First” -Dame Dash. And “The only ghetto that can hold you down is the ghetto of the mind. The only thing holding you back is your state of mind.” – Kevin Liles
1) What has been the best part of fatherhood for you?
- The best part about being a father to me is having someone that looks at you like your perfect. No matter what your going through in life a simple “I miss you daddy’ or ” Daddy your my best friend” or “Daddy I just wanted to tell you I love you” makes everything ok.
2) What is the most important lesson that you have learned since becoming a father?
- The most important lesson I learned when becoming a father is that everything you do, every decision you make can and will affect your child. You are no longer living for your self your are living to support your child and to give them a better life then you had.
3) What is the secret to being a good father to your children?
- I believe its simply creating a bond between you and your child. Every parent bond is different. Something I created for my son and I is something called “Man Talk”. Its where we talk like men about life, school, family, girls, sports, and anything else. He confides in me and tells me whatever it is on his mind. I do not influence his thoughts while talking nor do i interrupt. I let him speak freely. The only rule that I have during “man talk” is he must look me in my eyes the entire time like a man.
4) What does Fatherhood mean to you?
- Fatherhood means to me means being a role model in every aspect and teaching your child about life so he or she can be best prepared.
5) What do you feel is the best piece of advice that you have ever given your children?
- My son is only five years old but I’ve taught him to always look people in the eyes while talking and to give firm handshakes. You can measure the depths of a man by simply shaking his hand and looking him in the eye.
6) How does your parenting style differ from the style of your parents?
- I am the type of dad that will let their child learn from life experiences. I rather let my son fall then to tell him he is going to fall so he can experience how it felt to fall. But I do not mean a serious fall thats going to break a bone or anything. But overall I believe life is that greatest teacher. I believe parents should not shelter their kids from the good and bad in life. Explain the bad and why it exist and explain to your child why they should not do the bad. Explain to them that they are blessed to have the good, and to strive for the best and its ok to fail. But its not how you fall its how you get back up that matters and most importantly remember why you fell and never fall again.
7) If you could go back in time and tell yourself one thing before you became a father what would you say?
- No matter how many books your read or google searches you do nothing will fully prepare you for fatherhood. Just jump in head first and do your best.
8) What piece of advice do you have for fathers who are not currently present in the lives of their children?
- GET IN THEIR CHILDS LIFE!!! You are missing out on the best experience! Nothing compares to being a father. Rather you know it or want to admit it, your child needs you, so man up and handle your business.
9) What is the one moment since you became a father has changed your life forever?
- At the hospital when my son was born and he fell a sleep on my chest. It was an surreal moment. It was then it really hit me. I am a Dad, I am a Father, I created this little heartbeat I feel beating on my chest!! And yes a tear or two fell. LOL
10) What do you feel your legacy as a father will be?
- My legacy will be someone that gives it all as a Dad, a loving role model, thats preparing a future leader for the world.